When a woman is involved in sexual activity, a chemical called oxytocin is released. This chemical is released three times in a woman's life: when she gives birth to a child, when she breast feeds a child, and when she participates in sexual activity. The chemical is wonderful because it causes a bonding with the other person . That's why mothers feel so bonded to their babies after they give birth and when they breast feed. That's also why women can sometimes kiss their boyfriends all night long and feel completely satisfied and loved because doses of that hormone are being released, making them feel extremely close to that person. The more of the oxytocin that's released, the more bond she will experience.

However, the more sex partners a woman has outside of marriage, the weaker the bonding power of oxytocin becomes. So, say a woman starts to have sex when she's a teenager and sleeps with six guys by the time she's 25. Her ability to bond with each partner will get increasingly difficult, and by the time she gets married her bond will not be as strong with her husband. On the contrary, a woman who saves sex for marriage, will have a strong bond with her husband because she has not bonded with anyone else.

Men are wired a little differently. Men have a hormone called testosterone as well as oxytocin. When men have sex and release oxytocin, they don't feel all cuddly and bonded like women do because of the fact that testosterone is released at the same time, and it blocks the bonding effect of oxytocin.

Men are extremely visual. Men get a visual imprint of the women they are with when they have a sexual release. It doesn't matter if it's a human woman or a pornographic image on a website or magazine. It could also be an image they get while on the phone with a woman.

The more women a man sleeps with outside of marriage or the more pornographic images he looks at while having sexual releases, the more images he will have to deal with in his sexual relationship with his wife. It is possible all of those women will be in his mind while he's trying to be sexually intimate with his wife.

But, if a man saves sex for marriage and avoids pornographic images, his wife will be the only woman with whom he has a visual and sexual bond. He won't have to worry about comparing her to any of the women in his past. That's the type of bond a man should have with his wife.

Here is a progressive list of how a relationship develops physically. To be successful in remaining abstinent, you need to determine where you want to draw the line. By setting boundaries you are helping your relationship to have a chance to develop emotionally, socially, intellectually, and spiritually before getting involved physically. This allows you to determine if the person is someone you would want to marry before you do something you'll regret later.

1. Holding Hands
2. Hugging
3. Simple Kiss
4. Long Kissing
5. Touching Over Clothes
6. Touching Under Clothes
7. Sexual Activity